I’m super busy and don’t have time to take pictures for you, but here’s a summer flashback. taken by olive!
imagine if I had black hair.
so, this happened
and then this. and then they apparently went quite viral on Facebook. it’s very odd to see so many strangers tag their Facebook friends in the comments saying ’look how cute’ under a picture of you(very flattering, but also really bizarre in a teenage celebrity kind of way).
the articles seem to include a few mistranslations (from what Google translate tells me anyway), but I believe neither of the two sites wrote anything offensive or negative and both included a link to my blog. Brazilians and Portuguese flooded my inbox and I have to say the feedback has been nothing, but positive. I visited comments sections on the websites and translated some of those, too. my favourite ones:
"I look at the photos and all I can think is happiness and personal fulfilment! just look at the photos to see how happy he is now that he’s become on the outside what he’s always been on the inside"
“Funny that these transgender men end up nicer than the average men”
"Dexter Morgan, is that you?"
Ola .. Chciał wiedzieć, który hormon wziąć, ile miligramów, jak długo i ile. Dziękuję.
hormony w Polsce przepisuje lekarz seksuolog, wyznacza również dawkę. odsyłam po podstawowe informacje na transseksualizm.pl, a do mnie zapraszam z pytaniami, na które nie znaleźliście informacji tam.
so, my buddy Liam has recently made a video asking how to not shave when you’re trying to grow a beard, but it doesn’t look as desirable as you’d like it to during the first weeks. it made me realise how much I’ve learned about growing beards in the past few months and how I probably haven’t shared much of it with you yet.
I’ve been a jefffsbeardboard member for a while and one of the basic advise guys give to the newcomers there is you have to grow your beard out for 2-3 months to get an idea of what you’re able to grow. people have this ridiculous idea in their heads that you either grow a thick beard in two weeks or you better forget about it, while most of us take a lot longer, not to mention our facial hair doesn’t come in evenly, different regions grow at different pace and(with a few exceptions of fast growers that have both great coverage and density) the first month or two are the worst! they say it tends to look the worse before it looks it’s best. if you’re reading ‘month or two’ thinking what the hell, I want a beard, not a gandalf face!, then you certainly must be new here…
for example, here’s what my beard looked like after a little over two months of growing(not big at all):
what’s even more important to realise is how much added length affects thickness, example(two pictures, same guy). I’d advise going through the board’s beard journeys and first beards section as well as checking out beard growing time lapse videos on Youtube - they help you realise that a)patience can do wonders. you’ll be surprised how bald spots can magically fill in and b)a lot of guys deal with imperfections similar to yours, but you’re not as critical towards theirs, so perhaps you shouldn’t be towards yours, either?
after that the first step is making a decision to stop shaving (and trimming!) for two or three months, setting a date and sticking to it, no matter what. documenting the growing process can be very helpful, too. when you feel like trimming or shaving because you don’t think the beard looks decent enough, you may want to take a look back at the pictures of guys who went through a rough stage, too, but added length made a giant difference- even though you can’t actually predict what your facial hair will look like after that time, those really keep you motivated and chances are you’re going to be another success story. one more thing to keep in mind is so called rules of acquisition put together by people on the board. the ones I find particularly relevant(full list here):
#Shaving your beard will not make it grow faster or thicker.
#Give yourself 24 hours to think about it before you shave or significantly trim your beard.
#Having some facial hair, styled properly, is almost always better than clean shaven.
#Your beard looks better to other people at a distance than it does to yourself in the mirror.
#Expect negative comments from friends and family during the growing process.
#Even the best beards look scruffy and unattractive in the early stages. The shape, color, texture, or pattern cannot be anticipated too early in the process, nor should you expect it to be flawless.
had my stitches removed yesterday. everything is still a little tense and sore. the wound below my belly button is the most swollen and it’s going to take the longest to heal because underwear waistbands keep rubbing against it. perhaps I’ll use some scar treatment on it once healed.
I had awful cramping yesterday(normal in the early post-op period) and I thought perhaps I’d get the downstairs bleeding, but nope. on one hand I feel really lucky, but on the other I’ve heard of people who initially had no bleeding and then of a sudden it happened twice as strong. I asked the nurse if I should be worried about the lack of spotting, but she said I should be fine and that it would probably occur once I’m back to being a bit more physically active. well, I’d rather deal with it now than back at uni, but what can you do…
needed a change.
i was wondering, if you know about the procedure for changing one's name/gender marker as a polish national living abroad?
ale mówisz po polsku? bo jeśli tak, to na bank jest jakaś informacja w tym temacie na transseksualizm.pl w dziale. otherwise you should ask for some info at the place people change their name/gender marker in the country you currently reside in/are transitioning in and ask if there is any procedure for foreigners who haven’t undergone these changes in their country of citizenship(doubtful, unless you have more than one nationality). I know you can change your name living in the UK while still being a Polish citizen, though, so perhaps other stuff is possible as well.
How would you as a regular user rate the TRX for exercise/fitness? Plus the value VS other similar suspension training. Since the TRX is quite expensive to buy. Thanks
I’m no expert, but I love TRX and think it makes working out from home much easier and enjoyable. the only suspension trainers other than TRX Force Tactical I own are some old Rip60 and TRX is mostly much more convenient to use, but to some extent it might be a matter of personal preference.
but my TRX wasn’t too expensive at all and I know it costs shitloads in the US. if there were more people interested I could buy more and resell them to you, but I’d like to know in advance that you actually want to purchase them! obviously I’d post pictures and we’d use something safe like eBay, so you know you’re not sending me your money without getting the product in return. so message me with your contact info(tumblr/e-mail), if you want to buy TRX with all the accessories and crap for 2 times less.
paintedparade replied: for anybody wanting to do trx-esque exercises, look into getting a pair of olympic rings! I got a set for $30 on Amazon and they allow you to do basically the same moves as a TRX does. (I threw mine over my pull-up bar; door anchors aren’t included.)
checking out from the hospital. all packed and waiting for my dad to take me home. feeling okay, sore and stuff, but I wasn’t prescribed any painkillers, they said I shouldn’t need any, just Clexane shots(blood-thinning medication you inject into the belly fat), will be doing those for the next ten days. btw if you need to know how to do subcutaneous injections, watch this lady explain it and, if you don’t, you might still want to watch it because she’s so adorable.
due to doctor’s papers I shouldn’t go to school for the next 30 days, but they said it was up to me and how i was feeling. I have uni 9am-6pm(earliest) 5 days/week, plus transportation, so I don’t think I’m physically ready for that just yet, but there is a lot of stuff I can’t do from home and I’d rather start them before exam period comes up. if I feel ready, I’ll slowly start taking the more important classes next week.
people from Poland whom I spoke to and who had TLH performed didn’t study at the time, but if you had your hysterectomy done via laparoscopy while at uni, feel free to share your recovery judgments with me!
I had tons of sleep yesterday and am now feeling much, much better. I finally got the iv removed first thing in the morning and was allowed to change from the sexy nightgown into my own pjs. nurse told me to take a shower and take my dressings off and that made me feel better, too. everything looks alright, obviously there is some swelling and bruising going on, I still have stitches in and my belly button looks like an alien, but Jonathan promised one day it would go back to normal!
let me also say: first real food tasted amazing, I can’t even - best dry bread with butter and fake peach jam ever made :)
thanks everyone for the wishes, you’re the best.
got back to the ward. felt great until they told me to start drinking water which apparently was too soon and made me extremely nauseous. second drinking attempt ended with my head in the toilet. took me a few hours to get better, but I did. parents came by while I was feeling sick and their visit was very exhausting- it felt like they spoke endlessly and were super loud, but I guess I was just weak and irritable from the nausea. it makes sense that visitors aren’t allowed on the first day, they would have driven me mad.
ate a little bit of a tasteless soup and a cracker by the end of the day. still getting painkillers every 6hrs and an IV. someone mentioned I could get home tomorrow, but I’m not feeling too confident about that and would rather stay for one more day or two.
got a quick gyno exam, some blood tests, two enemas and my first irrigation done on a day before.
Friday morning nurse woke me up around 5:30am for another irrigation- guys warned me it wasn’t going to be the most pleasant experience, but no one mentioned it could be painful afterwards. the procedure itself didn’t really hurt and was a matter of maybe a minute, after the first one I was a bit sore, but when I got back to my room from the second irrig, I was extremely dizzy, nauseous, heard a loud ringing sound in my head and felt a terrible pain in my lower stomach. I asked a nurse whether the pain was normal after irrigation, she said some pain could occur, if the organ was irritated. I asked for something to soothe the pain, but I fell asleep and the lower bellyache was gone when another nurse came by. It lasted for about 30 minutes. I got an IV, antibiotics and a few hours later I was taken on a wheel chair to the OR where they put me on a gyno chair, shaved my right thigh to put some kind of a plaster(taping?) on it, no idea when I fell asleep.woke up feeling like I had to pee, but a nurse told me I had a catheter already in, overall doing well, a bit uncomfortable, painkillers every 6 hours, a bit of a temperature, luckily no bleeding so far! my dressings remained dry as well. I have to change positions from time to time to prevent bed sores.I called my mum to say I was okay, she wasn’t allowed to visit me yet, but she had spoken to my surgeon and was informed the operation went smoothly. not allowed to drink yet, got a small ampoule of water to moisturise my mouth, but I’m sick of water after the 3 litres I had to drink the day before anyway. slept pretty much all day.
hysto tomorrow morning. I’m currently in the hospital, having some exams done, drinking tons of water(no food). feeling good, the place is nice, the staff is pretty cool. not nervous. I confuse the hell out of female patients ;)